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ON FEAR AND JUDGEMENT

Updated: Dec 24, 2018

AS OF LATE, MUCH HAS BEEN WRITTEN AND REVIEWED ON PEOPLES NEED TO JUDGE AND FEAR OTHERS. IT IS PRIMARILY DISTILLED INTO EGO TALK AND SELF CRITICISM QUAGMIRES THAT ONE MUST UPROOT FROM. THIS IS QUITE TRUE. I AM CONTINUALLY UNTANGLING MYSELF FROM THE SUFFOCATING EGO SPEAK THAT LIKES TO CREEP INTO MY INTERNAL DIALOGUE AT ALL HOURS. I THINK, AND MANY TRUSTED SPEAKERS HAVE OUTLINED, THAT THIS IS A LIFELONG PROCESS OF MENTAL PRUNING TO SUBSCRIBE TO SHOULD YOU CHOOSE TO THINK, FEEL AND LIVE DIFFERENTLY. THIS CONTINUAL CLEARING IS REQUIRED TO BE SELF AWARE AND PREVAIL WITH POSITIVE THINKING IF YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE WITH MORE COMPASSION, COMMUNITY AND LOVE. AND, I DO SO CHOOSE.


HOWEVER, I DO ALSO THINK IT IS IMPORTANT TO HIGHLIGHT THAT THERE IS ROOM FOR UNDERSTANDING THAT SOMETIMES YOU AREN'T GOING TO AGREE WITH OTHER PEOPLE. YOU AREN'T GOING TO LIKE SOME OF THE THINGS THAT PEOPLE STAND FOR. YOU DO NOT NEED TO CONSENT TO ALLOWING PEOPLE TO OVERRIDE YOUR BELIEFS, TO USE THEIR VOICE TO CORRUPT YOUR FEELINGS, OR SIMPLY JUST TO BE COMPLACENT IN THE BELIEF THAT EVERYONE HAS TO BE IN AGREEMENT IN ORDER TO PREVENT FEAR OR JUDGEMENT FROM CROPPING UP. THERE IS PLENTY OF ROOM AT THE TABLE FOR DISAGREEMENT. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO AGREE WITH PEOPLE TO GET ALONG WITH THEM. AND YOU MOST DEFINITELY DO NOT NEED TO JUDGE OR FEAR OTHERS SHOULD THEY HAVE OPPOSING VIEWS. YOU MAY CHOOSE TO NOT BE AS CLOSE TO SOMEONE THAT IS OF A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LIFE VIEW IN ORDER TO ALLOW YOU BOTH THE FREEDOM OF CHOICE BUT YOU DO NOT NEED TO DECIDE THAT THEY ARE WRONG IN ORDER FOR YOU TO PURSUE YOUR BELIEFS.


I THINK THIS IS WHERE I GOT STUCK AT TIMES IN MY LIFE; FEELING I NEEDED TO MAKE MY POINT UNDERSTOOD. THIS CAME FROM A LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE AND TRUE BELIEF IN MY OWN VIEWS. IF PEOPLE DIDN'T AGREE WITH ME, MAYBE I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS 'WRONG'? IS IT POSSIBLE THAT ALONG MY LIFE JOURNEY I WILL LOOK BACK AND THINK, OH... MAYBE I SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO THEM BACK THEN? SURE, IT IS COMPLETELY WITHIN THE REALM OF POSSIBILITY THAT I AM 'WRONG' ABOUT ANY GIVEN SUBJECT AT ANY MOMENT, BUT SOMETIMES THE BEST TEACHER IS EXPERIENCE AND I HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT AND MOVE FORWARD WITH THE BEST OF MY UNDERSTANDING AND ABILITIES THAT I HAVE. SOMETIMES THOUGH, SURELY JUST THROUGH THE MATHEMATICAL ODDS, I MUST HAVE THE BETTER END OF THE STICK AND THROUGH PURSUING THAT I CAN THEN BE A BETTER EXAMPLE TO THOSE WHO SEE IT DIFFERENTLY.


THIS CAN BE ESPECIALLY DIFFICULT IF THE OPPOSING VIEW COMES FROM SOMEONE WHO IS INHERENTLY CONNECTED TO YOU. I THINK IT IS WONDERFUL AND EXCITING TO HAVE DIFFERENT VIEWPOINTS THAT CAN BE DISCUSSED AND DISSECTED TO COME TO A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OR OPPORTUNITY TO GROW. HOWEVER, DEPENDING ON THE TOPIC AND THE INDIVIDUALS WILLINGNESS TO LEARN AND LISTEN IT CAN CREATE A CHASM WHERE LIFE DOESN'T MATCH OR LEAD IN THE SAME DIRECTION WHEN NO COMMON GROUND CAN BE FOUND. SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO LET GO IN ORDER TO MOVE FORWARD. AND THAT COMES WITH IT'S OWN SET OF FEAR AND JUDGEMENT TO CONTEND WITH.

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